一个人拥抱世界

你是否曾经一个人在外走走

蓝蓝的天，热闹的街

些许的微风当旁人走过时迎面而来

多久没有呼吸外面的新鲜空气了

是否看清没了他的日子

天空依然可以那么的蓝

空气依然可以那么的清新

时间依然一分一秒的过

地球依然在自转公转

或许你能够体验一个人的自由

挑战一个人逛街

挑战一个人吃饭

挑战一个人运动

挑战一个人旅行

时间那么珍贵

为什么还要等待

如果目标就在前方

为什么不向快乐奔跑

其实你只需要向依赖感说分手

其实你只要告别两个人的世界

然后就可以拥抱全世界

things to do at night

it seems like i have a new habit

has been skyping Jun every now and then

bestties which i get to see very often in collage

apart because of my job

apart because of her study in UK

but we are like so use of calling each other 

almost every night when im around in SG

a person who keep me company all night

when im having jet lag

we might have on the video call

without saying any single words

but we kept each other company

it might because of the similarity

when we are alone away from home

but there is always someone there

watching you, listening and keep you company

how great transforming a cool and boring night

to be a warm sharing night
specially after a fun day out
and back in the cozy room where you are alone

how great my life can be

how great a network is

which help us keep in touch

but of coz my job did a little enhancement

when i travel around

which help us to meet up

friends that i really love them all

friends that i appreciate for life

心里那一闪门

一段简短的信息

成了我结束一切的决定

是心里作用

 

还是真的生效了

 

感觉像是自己决定结束了一切

 

心里腾空了许多

 

真的没那么想你了

就算是天灰了

也能够把它看成了好天气

 

心里那一闪门

 

果然是得自己为自己而打开的

你的门是否也打开了呢？？

 

believe and move on

would that be a curse that would have affected??

most of my friends having problems in relationship

it seems like there is nothing i could help

nothing i can do to fill up the hole in their broken hearts

we always said time will cure

but is it really happening??

i ever spent years to let go but it will never heal 

its like a scar been left after a burnt

which will never disappear for life

its just depends on our own

who have to decide whether to forgive and let go

we are the key for our heart

whether to open it wisely or to closing it tide

i have to say i have not done it well

but this is one of the "must" thing we have to been thru

we need to fall before we get succeed

in everything, every stage in our life

we should have believe in ourselves

we could have done even better by our own

no one in life that we can't live without

we lead our own life

we shouldn't be interrupted by people

who doesn't mean to be on our path

they are just a passerby

someone who might just bump into you

someone who might just help you to stand up

someone who might just help to pick up your belongings

someone who might just walk away

any possibility any reason it can be

but we can't expect everybody to stay

neither to ask for help from all

it is always easy by saying so

how difficult it is to do so

is the effort that we need to put in

even more than anything else we need to do

instead of spending time in dreaming

wasting time on giving yourself excuses

wasting time on asking why

maybe we should have just move on

make an effort to fill up your time

on a lot more things which is good for us

working hard, making friends, exercising,.....

started with a healthy life style

started with a healthy mindset

which lead us to a better living standard

bring us more luck and better future

you might even believe the prince or the princess

would have been somewhere there waiting for you

my pleasure

do you ever remember when was the last time you offer to help others

honestly if you do it genuine by heart

you might not even remember

we would to do it sincerely

we do it by not expecting any returns

i wouldn't say i have done a lot

but i guess i have been being myself so far

never take advantage when people being nice to you

be appreciative altho you might not wanna be nice to that person

you never know if you need help one day

i never expect i would ever get anything in return

but i felt treasure even i felt i have done nothing

pay a visit once in a while

make a phone call or even a text when you are free

drop a message send a blessing on special occasions

treat everyone like your family

i belive i have got more than just a return

i got numbers of friends who just love the way i am

friends who being so kind to my stubbornness

friends who being so appreciative when i babble

i guess im not wrong being a fool

people who willing to stay by me

i believe they would have understand who i am

being straightforward doesn't mean that im rude

telling them in a right way at the right time is very important

is always the way we communicate make things work

trustworthy friend is difficult to get

appreciate if you ever found them

they could be the person who walk you to the end

no matter who you are

loving a friends is like loving your love ones

you might found a friend

who even treat you better than your another half

who would appreacite you more than your partner

we could live without a partner

but we wouldn't without friends

we don't need thousands of friend to survive

a few or even one trustworthy friend is more than enough

i believe i have found them

people who would do the same thing as i did

they might have even did more than i have done

we would to call each other "my gf" than "my friend"

have you encounter the sweetness of a friend

a simple thank you would be good

they would have felt you and love you like you do

never be ashame of who you are

people who talk bad behind you

people who look down on you

people who laugh at you

we don't need people like them in our life

friends suppose a person who support you all the way

who accompany when you are down

i guess most of us have found them

but have you ever say thanks to them sincerely

never too late to have do it today or maybe tomorrow

but don't ever bring regrets to your life

you might even found tomorrow can be too late

be blessed that you are being loved



心中的蝴蝶

一瞬间的快乐没了

一小段的记忆却是那么清晰

追寻一道背影
像是追寻蝴蝶一般
某个时候某个地方
无法抹掉那期待之意
却轻易的在无视之下获得
或许像是在某个点
碰见了那色彩美丽的蝴蝶
身上却没带着网
或许是哪一天身上带着网
却等待不了蝴蝶的出现
甚至像是网子捉捕了以后
它却在你不经意时逃离了
逃离以后它远走高飞

不懂会有哪一天

才能再次碰到那心里最色彩缤纷的蝴蝶

或许天时地理人和是那么重要

天时不如地理

地理不如人和

就算再对的时间

再对的山与河

还是无法和拼成一副完美的图

新「大」男人主義

主計處去年針對「婦女婚育與就業」大調查，在二十五歲至四十四歲的單身女性方面，雖然到了適婚年齡，卻有百分之十八點四六的受訪者，決定獨身，一輩子不結婚。就算結婚，也不願生孩子。據了解，大約有六萬八千的受訪已婚婦女，只要兩人世界，不要孩子。
  
台灣女性不婚、不生的人數，雙雙創下歷史新高。根據這項調查，不婚的最主要原因，除了考慮經濟因素，也有人怕婚姻不幸福；但超過六成的不婚原因，是因為沒遇到Mr. Right。
  
到底什麼樣的男人才是Mr. Right？
  
在教育日漸普及、兩性工作平權的台灣社會裡，我想，男人們需要新思維，才能攜手和眾多未婚女性，一起殺出一條生路。而這個新思維的關鍵便是：男人能否接受所謂的、表面的、輿論狹義的「女強男弱」？
  
換句話說，男人是否能接受自己的另一半學歷比較高、收入比較多、名氣比較大、官位比較高？
  
看完這句話，許多男人應該已經在心中吶喊千百句：不能！不能！不能！或是立刻把手中的雜誌丟到一旁然後用力的嗤之以鼻！
  
可憐的男人。
  
錯不在男人！錯在中國五千年來傳統的大男人主義，錯在台灣社會的功利主義，錯在台灣學校教育的刻板兩性思想。在中國傳統家庭裡，男人一定要出外打 拼，找份薪水穩定的好工作，只要這個目標一達成，男人便被奉為上皇、頭頂的一片天；只要男人事業成功，其它的一切便不被要求、甚至不好的德行都可以被赦 免。
  
所以，只要男人一下班，便可茶來伸手、飯來張口，他們不用關心小孩、太太，因為每個月都可以用薪水袋堵住老婆的嘴；如果有了外遇，那是因為工作壓力大，或是因為家裡的黃臉婆不懂得把自己裝扮得漂亮一點；如果有了外遇，婆婆會對媳婦說，妳要學會睜一隻眼、閉一隻眼，媽媽會對女兒說，男人都這樣，習慣就好。甚至，廟裡的廟祝、起乩的神人、宗教界的師兄師姐，都會認為這是常態、得過且過。
  
與其說男人怕自己的女人比較強，不如說是怕自己在傳統社會中「硬不起來」、抬不起頭之外，還不能享受這五千年來被千千萬萬人默許的潛規則。
  
大多數男人也怕被笑：罩不住自己的女人。罩得住？什麼叫罩得住？所謂的「罩」，是指矇蔽、不尊重、瞞天過海、欺騙嗎？
  
如果男人怕與女人地位反轉─女人在外打拼賺錢、男人在家帶小孩－那就表示他們覺得女人原來主內的工作很不重要、不起眼、不值得被尊重！
  
女人開始出外工作後，開始了解自己的父親、丈夫有多辛苦、多偉大；男人們能不能也試著學習與小孩相處、學習上菜市場、學習主持家務，甚至替女人分憂解勞？兩性平權能否真的落實，就看這一步。
  
女人心目中的Mr. Right，或許不是帥比金城武、富比郭台銘，而是打從心底接受女「強」人，能「屈」能伸的大丈夫。

文/陶晶瑩

张小娴说:

张小娴说：

­有时候我们愿意原谅一个人

并不是我们真的愿意原谅他

而是我们不想失去他

不想失去他

唯有假装原谅他

张小娴说：

做一个诚实的孩子

喜欢一个人不到一定程度

不要轻易去说喜欢

因为你的一句轻浮的话

很可能悲伤另一个人一段时光

也有的将会是一生

张小娴说：

当时间过去

我们忘记了曾经义无反顾地爱过一个人

忘记了他的温柔

忘记了他为我做的一切

我对他再没有感觉

我不再爱他了

为甚么会这样?

原来我们的爱情败给了岁月

首先是爱情使你忘记时间

然后是时间使你忘记爱情

张小娴说：

大部分负心人的记性都是差劲的

如果他的记性好

记得情人为他付出的一切

记得当天多么甜蜜

他又如何能够忍心背弃Ta?

张小娴说：

男人和女人

一旦睡過就會對對方有要求

有要求

就有埋怨

有埋怨

就有痛苦

有痛苦

就有怨恨

张小娴说：

寂寞的人

感冒会拖得特别的久

因为Ta自己也不想痊愈

张小娴说：

女人放弃一个跟不上她的男人

是有志气

男人放弃一个跟不上他的女人

则是无义

张小娴说：

失望有时候也是一种幸福

因为有所期待

所以才会失望

因为有爱才会有期待

所以纵使失望也是一种幸福

虽然这种幸福有点痛

张小娴说：

两个人在一起是为了快乐

分手时为了减轻痛苦

你无法再令我快乐

我也唯有离开

我离开的时候也很痛苦

只是你肯定比我痛苦

因为我首先说再见

首先追求快乐的是我

张小娴说：

你以为不可失去的人

原来并非不可失去

你流干了眼泪

自有另一个人逗你欢笑

你伤心欲绝

然后发现不爱你的人

根本不值得你为之伤心

今天回首何尝不是一个喜剧?

情尽时

自有另一番新境界

所有的悲哀也不过是历史

张小娴说：

开始的开始总是甜蜜的 

后来就有了厌倦、习惯、背弃

寂寞、绝望和冷笑 

曾经渴望与一个人长相厮守

后来多么庆幸自己离开了

曾几何时

在一段短暂的时光里

我们以为自己深深的爱着的人

后来我们才知道 

那不是爱

那只是对自己说谎

张小娴说：

同一个人

是没法给你相同的痛苦的

当他重复地伤害你

那个伤口已经习惯了

感觉已经麻木了

无论在给他伤害多少次

也远远不如第一次受的伤那么痛了

张小娴说：

时间会让你了解爱情

时间能够证明爱情

也能够把爱推翻

没有一种悲伤是不能被时间减轻的

如果时间不可以令你忘记那些不该记住的人

我们失去的岁月又有什么意义?

张小娴说：

一个钱币最美丽的状态

不是静止

而是当它像陀螺一样转动的时候

没人知道

即将转出来的那一面

是快乐或痛苦

是爱还是恨

快乐和痛苦、爱和恨

总是不停纠缠

张小娴说：

一个承诺在最需要的时候没有兑现

那就是出卖

以後再兑现已经没什么意思了

张小娴说：

我们总是不懂得珍惜眼前人

在未可预知的重逢里

我们以为总会重逢、总会有缘再会

总以为有机会说一声对不起

却从没想过每一次挥手道别

都可能是诀别

每一声叹息

都可能是人间最后的一声叹息

张小娴说：

爱情总是想象比现实美丽

相逢如是告别亦如是

我们以为爱得很深、很深

来日岁月会让你知道

它不过很浅、很浅

最深最重的爱

必须和时日一起成长

mask on 'em

everyone has a mask on them

to be survived

how scary could a person be

right in front and way behind

nothing they could hide

no way we can avoid

but to zip your mouth

don a mask and be like them

算了

一句简单的问候

但却没能得到他的回应

还是那一句

不如就算了吧！

都已成了过去

那就祝福吧！